Don't Reveal

The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "All of my Community shall be pardoned, save those who commit sins openly. Committing them openly includes a man who does something shameful at night, and when morning comes, Allah having hidden his act, he says 'O So-and-so, last night I did such and such'; his Lord having concealed it for him at night, while in the morning he pulls away the cover with which Allah had concealed it for him." [Sahih Bukhari]

It is makruh/offensive for a person who has been afflicted with an act of disobedience to inform another of it. Rather, one should repent to Allah Most High by desisting from it at once, regretting what one has done, and firmly resolving never to do the like of it again. These three things are the integrals of repentance, which is not valid without them.

To not want the act of disobedience to remain hidden from the eyes of people indicates pride, rather than regret, in what one has committed. One cannot expect to be forgiven when there is no repentance for the sin. May Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) save us from such hardness of the heart.